Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Sadness and depression.

I always thought sadness is synonymous with depression. But the stark difference came to light when I experienced both.

Sadness is a reaction brought on by external elements. Like a hurtful comment, a loss of some kind, a death of  loved one. Something which is out of our control. As soon as I realized this I saw how controllable this emotion is. Sadness can be overcome so easily (You might think otherwise if you have never been depressed). We just have to control to what extent we allow ourselves to react to situations.

Depression is a reaction to internal elements. Every mean thing the inner voice tells us. Like "You are not good enough", "You could not even keep your job", "You will never be good enough", "How do you expect anyone to love you, you are an ugly mess". How should this be overcome or controlled ? We are our meanest critic.

People so easily confuse sadness and depression. Recently my co-worker told me that he is in depression. A thing which a depressed person would never admit to a stranger. A root cause analysis soon revealed that he is not happy with his job, an external element. Totally controllable. So is he depressed ? Maybe, because he thinks he cannot find a job which he will like. Or is he just sad ? Because the manager is mean. Can you see the connection ? His manager says a mean thing, which makes him sad and soon he thinks he is not fit for the job and now he is depressed.

So, is depression controllable ? Based on the above connection, up to some extent yes. Also, listing down positive things about me and cutting me some slack has helped me.

I am no expert on this. But realizing this has helped me in some ways. I would like to think, that by writing this I am paying it forward. If it helps one person out there, that is enough for me.

If you would like to add to this please do leave a comment.