I am someone who is slow to open up to people. I speak with my colleagues only if need arises and a little during lunch. If you expect me to rant on, you will have to be my friend for at least 1-2 months. (Yes, tested ;)). I think that is why I find people who speak a lot very irritating.
- I once met a guy in bus. He used to give me life lessons. Told me that I was not enjoying my life because I left office at 6'o clock while he left office at 5'o clock. He then gave explanations of how he enjoys his life by leaving office one hour earlier than me.
- I meet a girl in bus stop every morning. We get at most 5-7 minutes to speak. Last Friday I asked her what she was doing over the weekend. She lodged into a 4 minute (yes, I timed it) explanation of how she goes to movies or stays at home and explained in detail what exactly she does at home. She was not yet finished and our bus arrived. (Thank Jejus)
- I once met a guy who told me the entire story of Dhoom 3. (If you think the movie is boring why do you think it would make an interesting story during a conversation ?)
- I still meet this guy on bus. He told me what all he bought for his brother who was going to USA for higher studies. He could have just told "clothes" but noo. He gave me a detailed description of each formal shirt, t-shirt, collared t-shirt, jeans, formal pants, nightwear, sweaters, thermal underwear (I am not making this up) and also where exactly he bought it from and why exactly he bought those. He has a loud voice.
What was I doing ? To put it in short, this was my thought process
"Ok....Okay dude.....smile and nod.....Okay, I get it............I get it..........I GET IT...............Stop.........oh please stop.......don't make me hurt you.........if I interrupt you now and tell you I am not interested to know then both of us will be feeling awkward and I don't like it so please stop...... .STOP.....PLEASE STAAAAPPPHHH...I think I will have an ice cream today...wonder what is going to happen in the next episode of tumhari paakhi.......have to buy a new pair of earrings.....you forgot to call the tailor again god you are so forgetful these days......maybe a butterscotch cake from sweet chariot will jog that memory right up!! hahaha.....smile and nod.....okay"
People who speak a lot are sometimes irritating, yes, but conversations with people who speak less are sometimes boring.
- My colleague has a 3 month old baby. Today's lunch conversation went like this
Colleague - *something* had *something something* loose motion in the morning.
Me - Is it because of something you ate ? Is that why you din't come to office yesterday ?
Colleague - My son had.
Me - Oh
*awkward silence till we finished our lunch*
- Me - Hi
Colleague 1 - Hi
Me - Reading any novels lately ?
Colleague 1 - Yes. *Tells some malayalam novel name.*
Me - Ok.
He does not ask me the same question and thus the conversation ends.
This happens mostly with my colleagues because I just try to do small talk.Writing about these conversations would be boring.
I don't know. I seem to have a problem with both kinds of people. But, that said, I would select being bored to being irritated any time of the day. At least I would be allowed to speak a little. I am sure that I can find something mutually interesting to speak because, well, I am awesome like that. :)
So what kind of person are you and what kind of a person would you choose ? :)
I am the kind of person who listens...and as a result gets a lot to listen :(
ReplyDeleteAnd tumhaari Pakkii? seriously??
THANKS JEJUS..hhhahahaha
Same here red.. :(
DeleteYeah.. I watch tumhari paaki :) I love the serial.. :)
Haha...nice one. Sometimes I feel you are me. :P Most of the time I have found talkative friends. Bothers me less as I listen only half of what they speak.
ReplyDeleteOh, that is so nice dear :) and I do that too, I just stop listening :)
DeleteI am not good at listening nor making small talk.
ReplyDeleteWhile listening I have trouble keeping eye contact for more than 5 seconds. And I look here and there like the world is falling apart. (Seriously, I do). And this goes in my mind, Should I look at the left eye or the right eye or both eyes simultaneously? Believe me, at the end of the conversation, I am still trying to find something someplace I don't even know.
It would be hilarious to speak to you then :D :D Have to observe if I ever meet you :)
DeleteThank Jejus.. hahaha... Reminded me of Rakhi Sawant :P
ReplyDeleteThat day I was so relieved that the bus arrived.. :)
DeleteU know me very well :P
ReplyDeleteIf you are telling you talk a lot then no,,, you don't :)
DeleteI like listening and talk less with people whom I do not know that well. With people I know well, I speak a lot. :) But if someone goes on talking about what he bought for his brother, I am sure I will not listen to half of the conversation :P
ReplyDeleteI do that too. I speak a lot with people whom I know but at other times I am more of a listener. :)
DeleteI'm one of those who talk a lot too, but with only those people I'm comfortable with. Else, I'm also a "Hi, ok, bye" person.
ReplyDeleteWhen random strangers try to make a conversation with me, I want to scream bloody murder.
Yeah, I speak a lot with people with whom I am comfortable with. :) I am beginning to think most of the bloggers are listeners. :)
DeleteI am the first type, for sure. But am also told that I am a good listener ( though I don't know much about that ). There is a thread in my inbox which has 11000+ mails (5 year old) over which a friend of mine fluctuated: Committed- single UG-single PG-committed PG-SinglePG-Married-Babies now :D I just don't know how to end that conversation and she starts conversation without a Hi :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely adore random-stranger-talks with anybody and everybody. Great stories come to us from every side, or so I believe :)
Just when I was coming to the conclusion that most of the people whose blogs I follow are listeners and you come up with this comment saying "I am that 1% who is a talker".. Hmmm :) Not that I mind :) If they want us to speak too then I am fine with speaking. I have a problem when they go on and rant and act all holier than thou just coz they are comfortable speaking with me and they don't even let me speak :(
DeleteMonologues you mean :) Ahh well... Self obsessed nazis are definitely not safe around me as well :D
DeleteNow that I come to think of it, I believe listeners have to be good talkers as well- and for that reason they must be afforded the ooportunity to speak. But yes, I agree- good listeners are difficult to find.
Hehehehehehe.. hilarious! Happens with me often as well! Loved reading this one!
ReplyDeleteThanks reems :)
DeleteI'm a weird combination of talkative and quiet. Sometimes I talk a lot, other times I only listen. I guess I like people who are a mixture of both too ...not too much of anything :)
ReplyDeleteThe right amount of both. Niceee.. :)
DeleteI would settle for a person who knows the right time to be a talker / listener :)
Ohh.. That's a sad situation. You are surrounded with people who bore you! :(
ReplyDeleteLuckily I have colleagues who listen and talk in equal measures. I am a great listener. i can listen to any thing, any non sense without getting bored or expecting to be heard. Unless I am really irritated by something.. But I have just one listener friend with whom I talk without inhibitions! :)
Ahh.. nice that you have interesting friends in office.. I am bored most of the times in my office.. :( I don't have any good listener friends..
DeleteConversations are actually pretty challenging. Even I get awkward at times, and I think I mostly have friends who irritate me by talking too much. They talk about the most pointless things and find them amusing. And it's even worse when you're with a group of people like that! But I assure you, with some practice, conversations become a breeze. I'd try to actually be interested in whatever the other person is talking about, and in return they would feign (or really) be interested in what I have to say.
ReplyDeleteI have tried that.. being interested and I see no effort from their side and I end up hating the human race.. Sigh..!! At least it worked for you .. :)
DeleteHehe.. nice :)
ReplyDeletethank you.. :)
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